Narrative-first, evidence-driven

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Use these to lower the temperature without surrendering your spine.

Bridge starters (connection without flinching)

• “I might be wrong — here’s what I’m using to check it.”
• “I’m trying to separate the problem from the villain story.”
• “We can disagree on policies and still agree on dignity and due process.”
• “I don’t think most people are evil. I think a lot of people are scared.”
• “If you see something I missed, I’ll take a look — respectfully.”

Clarifying questions (good-faith tests)

• “What outcome are you hoping for?”
• “What would change your mind here?”
• “What part do you think is confirmed vs still unclear?”
• “If we had to pick one next step, what would it be?”

Bridge + boundary (connection and an exit)

Use these when the thread turns into heat, insults, or infinite debate.

• “I’m not going to trade insults. If you want to talk facts and outcomes, I’m in.”
• “This claim is serious. I’m not repeating it unless we can source it.”
• “I’m going to step away from this thread. Happy to continue 1:1 if it’s in good faith.”
• “I care more about the relationship than the comment section.”
• “We’re not going to solve this here. I’m going to log the question and move on.”

A simple comment policy (optional to paste sometimes)

• “I’ll answer honest questions. I’m not going to debate in circles or tolerate insults.”

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